I thought I was the only one in the world who felt this way, but lo and behold! Another who sees this movie as it really is:
From the NYT:
“It’s a Wonderful Life” is a terrifying, asphyxiating story about growing up and relinquishing your dreams, of seeing your father driven to the grave before his time, of living among bitter, small-minded people. It is a story of being trapped, of compromising, of watching others move ahead and away, of becoming so filled with rage that you verbally abuse your children, their teacher and your oppressively perfect wife. It is also a nightmare account of an endless home renovation.
I wonder if there's a support group out there for us somewhere. Either way, Merry Flipping Christmas.